Monday, November 15, 2010

26, Divorced, and still going to BYU

Now, how many people can say that?

It occurred to me that I am a member of a very elite group of people. Not by plan or by choice, but simply by the way life has turned out so far. So, I ask myself how does it feel? What is it like to be at a school that encourages marriage and discourages divorce. What is it like to be living in singles housing when you are 8 years older than some of your room mates? Before this divorce I don’t know that I could have answered the question. I would have imagined that it was a sucky situation. I would likely have passed some pretty tough judgment on whoever I heard about being in this situation. Never in a million years would I have thought that the above statement would have described me.

I have always considered myself a pretty good person. I wanted everyone else to see a perfect person. (Tell me I’m not the only one who puts on a front for the world). The truth is I still consider myself a pretty good person, but I’m starting to see that I am not quite the perfect person I wanted everyone else to see, and I’m starting to see that as a good thing. Perfection is a good goal, but only if we focus on our progress toward perfection, and not the actual attainment of perfection.

1 comment:

  1. I feel for you, Kevin! I was "46, single, and homeless" on my birthday this year. (Yes, I had just sold my house and was in the middle of moving to another, but still... I found it rather odd to be able to say that.) One thing is for sure, laughter IS the best medicine for divorce! :o)

    Chin up! It gets better. ...and no one is looking for a perfect person. Just be yourself. Genuineness is a hot commodity!